The
emotion of anger is not always a negative feeling to experience. In fact, being
angry in
some ways can be a positive outlet and something that should not be ignored.
However,
having rage inside that results in harmful tendencies towards yourself or other
people,
and from which the source is painful experience, is not healthy at all. This
type of
anger
should be dealt with before it escalates into more negative experiences.
Designed
for your protection and safety, anger/rage is ultimately your friend and close
ally.
But until you can accept this kind of feeling as a part of your being, you will
tend to
be at
war with the emotion of anger as well as yourself. You must first understand
that
anger is
a protective emotion and then consider the ways in which anger can be useful
and
positive to you.
Because
anger or rage springs immediately from pain and fear, and then ultimately love,
you must
be careful that this anger is not disconnected from other basic emotions. This
is
when it
becomes dangerous. Once you overstep that boundary of caring for your feelings
or the
feelings of another person, your anger has the power to instill pain, either
emotional
or physical.
On the
other hand, if you can connect love for every angry feeling you get, anger
tends
to
dissolve and love and sense prevail. Below are four ways in which you can
better
understand
your anger:
1. Learn to recognize the relationship that exists between the
emotions of anger, rage, fear, pain, and love. There is an inherent
connection
between all three and the mark of a healthy individual is
one
where that person can target the origin from which their emotions
of
anger and stemming from. Is it fear? Is it pain? Or is the root cause
of the
anger stemming from love?
2. Learn to identify the vast differences between the actions
that are motivated by fear and the actions that are motivated
by love. Again, this is very
similar to number one above. Your goal
should
be to immediately identify your feelings of anger and the
feelings
of anger from other people and where they come from.
3. Understand that having courage is a result of the anger-love
connection. Having courage to face a
problem that has resulted from
being anger with a loved
one is a necessity in life, but only if that
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