ANGER MANAGEMENT

The emotion of anger is not always a negative feeling to experience. In fact, being

angry in some ways can be a positive outlet and something that should not be ignored.

However, having rage inside that results in harmful tendencies towards yourself or other

people, and from which the source is painful experience, is not healthy at all. This type of

anger should be dealt with before it escalates into more negative experiences.

Designed for your protection and safety, anger/rage is ultimately your friend and close

ally. But until you can accept this kind of feeling as a part of your being, you will tend to

be at war with the emotion of anger as well as yourself. You must first understand that

anger is a protective emotion and then consider the ways in which anger can be useful

and positive to you.

Because anger or rage springs immediately from pain and fear, and then ultimately love,

you must be careful that this anger is not disconnected from other basic emotions. This is

when it becomes dangerous. Once you overstep that boundary of caring for your feelings

or the feelings of another person, your anger has the power to instill pain, either

emotional or physical.

On the other hand, if you can connect love for every angry feeling you get, anger tends

to dissolve and love and sense prevail. Below are four ways in which you can better

understand your anger:

1. Learn to recognize the relationship that exists between the

emotions of anger, rage, fear, pain, and love. There is an inherent

connection between all three and the mark of a healthy individual is

one where that person can target the origin from which their emotions

of anger and stemming from. Is it fear? Is it pain? Or is the root cause

of the anger stemming from love?

2. Learn to identify the vast differences between the actions

that are motivated by fear and the actions that are motivated

by love. Again, this is very similar to number one above. Your goal

should be to immediately identify your feelings of anger and the

feelings of anger from other people and where they come from.

3. Understand that having courage is a result of the anger-love

connection. Having courage to face a problem that has resulted from

being anger with a loved one is a necessity in life, but only if that